Horizons Community Church

Looking for a mentor couple?

Complete this online application and someone from our staff will contact you within a few days.

PREPARING: Mentoring Engaged and Newlywed Couples

So often we think of a marriage ceremony as the culmination of a courtship process. But in reality, it is only a beginning. It marks the start of lifelong love, offering newlyweds the opportunity cultivate positive habits right from the start that will pay off for them down through the decades.

The engagement period and newlywed months for a couple offer an especially important opportunity for marriage mentors. More than any other time in their married life, this window of opportunity can be the point at which they develop healthy habits that last a lifetime.

Note - You only have approximately 15 minutes to complete the online process before your session will time out. If you believe it will take longer than that, type your answers into a Word or Text Style document and then cut and paste your responses into the form. This will save you time and not result in your session timing out.

MAXIMIZING: Mentoring Couples from Good to Great

Sometimes the most neglected couples are the ones who are “doing just fine.” These are the couples who aren’t coping with a crisis. Their children are not acting out any more than is usual. They aren’t struggling financially. From every indication they are committed to each other and in love. They are good citizens and church attendees. As we said, they are doing just fine. So what’s the issue?

To be frank, these couples may be missing out on something great. Dr. Doug McKinley, a Christian psychologist in Chicago, often says that the greatest enemy to a great marriage is a good marriage. And he’s exactly right. That’s why so few couples in a good marriage aspire to something better. They look around at other couples and realize they aren’t doing too badly. At least we don’t have their problems, they think to themselves. We’re doing okay. And they are. But they’ve settled for the state they are in, and by default, they’ve become complacent.

It doesn’t have to be this way. A good couple can make the leap to greatness – especially when marriage mentors are involved.

Note - You only have approximately 15 minutes to complete the online process before your session will time out. If you believe it will take longer than that, type your answers into a Word or Text Style document and then cut and paste your responses into the form. This will save you time and not result in your session timing out.

REPAIRING: Mentoring Couples in Distress

Every congregation has them: couples who are battling addiction, infidelity, infertility, loss, or some other serious difficulty. Often, these are couples on the edge of despair, looking into the abyss. They probably didn’t see their crisis coming and, besides, no amount of planning could have prevented the jolt that has struck them. They may have had little or no control over its occurrence – but they can control their response to it. With hope and encouragement, with the model of a mentor couple who has gone through it before them, they can walk away from the abyss. Mentoring couples can literally turn couples in crisis around and become instrumental in saving their marriage.

We need to be clear. In nearly all cases, the marriage mentors who are coming alongside specific couples in crisis should have experienced this crisis before them. In other words, the best mentors for a couple struggling with loss are another couple who has successfully battled loss. Of course, the loss does not have to be exactly the same, but to gain respect and engender hope in the mentorees; they have to see that you know what they are going through. We are so glad you are exploring the possibility of taking the next step by connecting with a mentor couple.

Note - You only have approximately 15 minutes to complete the online process before your session will time out. If you believe it will take longer than that, type your answers into a Word or Text Style document and then cut and paste your responses into the form. This will save you time and not result in your session timing out.